Posted on 6th May 2014
I have always loved Russian wedding rings - ever since one of my dearest friends showed me the one she has, which has been passed down through her family when we were little girls.
They are of course a traditional Christian symbolism representing the Holy Trinity. However there are many different interpretations of the symbolism of the three interlocking, tri coloured bands. Here are two of my favourites.
The first is a story a mother wove and told her little boy, about the symbolism of a Russian wedding ring which I found while doing some research.
One day a long time ago, a couple came into the hotel his father managed. This couple was not local and spoke in a tongue he had not heard before. The wife was a remarkably beautiful lady, but it was the unusual ring she wore on her wedding finger that struck the little boy most.
The ring consisted of three interlocking bands - each of a different colour of gold. He asked his mother what this ring was. Her reply was that it was a Russian wedding ring. The inquisitive little boy wanted to know more. In those far off days, mother's did not have the aid of Google so she did as mothers have done for centuries - she created and told her son a story.
Here is that story (I think it's beautiful)
The boy's mother said that marriage was about two people who loved each other. That the ring was - as all wedding rings are - a symbol of this love. She said this ring brought together the tree most important aspects of a loving and lasting relationship. The different gold bands symbolise each of these aspects, one is white, another yellow and the third rose.
White gold, is softer than the other two colours. Being softer, it will take the shape of the finger, 'pure love is like that', she said. 'In the journey through life, two people in love have to change their shape. They have to give some things up, and take others on. To become a family each one has to move toward the other'. The white gold represents 'bending towards each other'.
Yellow gold, however is very hard. You can bump it and knock it, and afterwards, all you have to do is give is a good hard rub and there it will be; all bright and shining again. 'Life is like that', she said. 'It is not easy. Sometimes things are really difficult. It is then that you really have to support each other. Sometimes love is hard'. This is what yellow gold symbolises. 'The strength to get through the difficult times in life, and come out the other side all bright and shiny and ready to carry on'.
Then she paused and was silent for a time. So her son asked 'what about the rose gold, mother?' It took her a moment before she answered-
'Have you ever seen rose gold before?' she asked softly. 'No' her son replied.
'Well', she said, 'rose gold is rare, and pure love, is just as rare. When you find it, when you finally have it, you must look after it. You have to protect it. For if you lose it, it may never come back to you again'. This is what the rose gold represents; 'that love must be cherished, because life is short and every moment spent without love is a moment lost forever'
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The second is a very simple variation on this theme that I like a lot. It is quite simply that the three bands mean;
'For then, For now, Forever'